Terms of Service

These terms are a contract between you and the company that runs Afterwink: the operator with unpublished company details that will be added before Afterwink opens. In these terms, "we" means that company. You can reach us at [email protected]. By creating an account, you accept these terms.

Afterwink is an app for dating and casual meetups between verified adults aged 18 or older. Members say what they are looking for, share boundary cards and agree a plan with a time, place and check-in inside the app. Afterwink starts in Tallinn only. Using Afterwink is free. If we sell paid passes later, the price and terms will be shown before you buy. See Paid passes below.

You must be 18 or older. You may have one account, for yourself only. Do not create an account for someone else, share your account or run a profile on someone else's behalf. If eID shows that you are under 18, we close the account and sign you out. That ID cannot be used for another Afterwink account.

Before your profile is shown to anyone, and before you can see profiles, like someone, send messages or propose a plan, you must verify your identity with eID. At launch, the method is Smart-ID. The check confirms your age and that one person has one account. Other members never see your legal name or personal identification code. We keep a keyed hash of your personal code so the same person cannot open a second account. The Privacy Policy explains this. Verify only with your own eID.

Keep your profile accurate. Use your own photos and real age, and do not make false claims about who you are. Keep your password to yourself. You can delete your account at any time in Settings with Delete Account. The Privacy Policy explains what happens to your data then.

Afterwink is for meeting people, never for buying or selling sex, intimacy or company. In profiles, messages, plans and events, you may not offer, ask for or arrange sex, intimacy or company for money, gifts, an allowance, rent, travel, drugs or any other benefit. This also applies if you use Afterwink to arrange it and payment happens elsewhere. It includes paid meetings, prices for a meeting, gifts in return for sex, sugar arrangements, meaning support or gifts in exchange for a relationship or sex, adverts for sexual services or any other paid services, and links to paid content.

Also forbidden are offering a room, flat or other place for payment or for others to use, managing a profile or arranging meetings for someone else, and asking someone to move to another app to agree a price. We remove such content and close the account. See "When rules are broken". We keep the evidence and share it with the police when the law requires us to. Anyone can report it. Members can use the Report button. Anyone else can use our notice form.

Respect boundaries. A no, hesitation or no answer means stop. A Yes on a boundary card before a meeting is not consent. Consent is given in the moment, and anyone can withdraw it at any time. We do not allow harassment, threats, stalking, pressure, coercion or hate against anyone for who they are. We also do not allow sending sexual images to someone who has not agreed to receive them, sharing anyone's private media, boundary card or intimacy card without their consent, or sharing intimate images of anyone without their consent.

Also forbidden are pretending to be someone else or using other people's photos, scams, spam and advertising, sharing phone numbers, links or messenger handles or asking others for theirs, any sexual content involving anyone under 18, trying to get around verification, the filter or a suspension, and using Afterwink for anything illegal. Profile photos may not show nudity or sexual acts.

An automated filter checks display names, bios, vibes, boundary card items, like notes, messages, plan text and event text before they are saved or sent. It checks Estonian, English, Finnish and Russian for phone numbers, links, messenger handles and talk about money or payments. If it finds a match, the text is not saved or sent. You see a notice, and the attempt is logged on your account. The filter never warns, suspends or bans anyone. It can also stop harmless text. If that happens, rephrase it or write to us.

A person reads every report and every notice and makes every decision to remove content, warn, suspend or ban. When reviewing a report, the person also sees the account's logged filter hits and the reported messages. Reports about someone under 18, sexual content involving children, selling or buying sex, or threats to someone's life or safety are handled first. Members report with the Report button. Anyone, with or without an account, can tell us about illegal content through the notice form on our website.

When we remove your content or restrict your account, we tell you by email what we did, the facts, the rule or law behind the decision, whether an automated tool was involved and how to ask for a review. If you disagree, reply within 6 months. We look at the decision again and tell you the result. You can also go to court or complain to the Digital Services Coordinator where you live. In Estonia, that is TTJA.

Depending on how serious the breach is and whether it has happened before, we remove the content, warn you, suspend the account until a date we give you, or ban it for good. During a suspension, you are signed out and the account is hidden until that date. After a ban, the account is closed and hidden at once. We choose the lightest step that fits. We go straight to a ban when the breach is serious.

These lead straight to a ban: any sexual content or contact involving someone under 18, selling, buying or arranging sex for payment, signs of human trafficking, threats of violence, sharing intimate images without consent, and opening a new account to get around a suspension or ban. An account whose eID shows that its owner is under 18 is closed. We keep evidence of these breaches and share it with the police when the law requires. A banned person may not open a new account.

Check-ins, trusted contacts and emergency alerts (SOS) let you tell people you trust that something may be wrong. They send your confirmed trusted contacts an email and, if a phone number was added, an SMS. Afterwink does not contact the police or emergency services and does not send anyone to you. These messages can be delayed or fail, for example when a network or provider is down. Do not rely on them alone. Meet in a public place first. If you are in danger, call 112.

Authorities of EU member states, the European Commission and the European Board for Digital Services can contact us at [email protected] in Estonian or English. This is our single point of contact under Article 11 of the Digital Services Act.

Members and anyone else can contact us at [email protected] in Estonian or English. A person reads and answers every message, not an automated system. This is our single point of contact under Article 12 of the Digital Services Act.

Estonian law applies to these terms. If you are a consumer, you keep the protection given by the mandatory law of the country where you live, and you can take a dispute to the courts there. Write to us first and we will try to solve it with you. You can also turn to the Consumer Disputes Committee (Tarbijavaidluste komisjon) at TTJA, Estonia's Consumer Protection and Technical Regulatory Authority.

Paid passes are not on sale yet. When they are, you can choose a 7-day pass or a 30-day pass. You pay once by bank link through MakeCommerce. A pass does not renew. It ends automatically when its term is over. The price and what the pass includes are shown before you order. You receive an order confirmation by email. If we close your account for breaking these terms, your pass ends too.

You can withdraw from a pass within 14 days of buying it without giving a reason. In Settings, use “Withdraw from contract here”. The button stays there for all 14 days. Then select “Confirm withdrawal”. We email you a confirmation showing what you sent and the date and time you sent it. We refund you within 14 days of receiving your withdrawal. The refund goes to the bank account you paid from.

If you ask for the pass to start at once, it starts during the withdrawal period. If you then withdraw, you pay for the days already used in proportion to the full pass term, and we refund the rest. Once the pass has fully run, you can no longer withdraw if you asked for it to start at once knowing that you would lose the right to withdraw when it was fully used.