Community guidelines

Your boundary card shows what you are open to. It is not a promise. A Yes on the card before a meeting is not consent. Consent is given in the moment and separately for each thing. Anyone can withdraw it at any time, before or during a meeting. A no, hesitation or silence means stop. Never pressure anyone to change a No or a Maybe.

Be honest in your profile and in chat. No harassment, insults, threats or hate. Never shame anyone for what they want or do not want. Only send sexual images after the other person clearly says yes. If someone stops replying, let it go.

Nothing on Afterwink is for sale. Do not set prices or pay or accept payment for sex, intimacy or company. Do not offer gifts in return for sex or make arrangements based on money or gifts. Do not post ads offering paid activities. Do not offer rooms or flats for others to use. If someone asks for or offers money, use Report. Breaking this rule ends your account.

Agree the plan in the app, where you both can see it. Meet in a public place first. A private place is only possible with a check-in and at least one confirmed trusted contact. Tell someone you trust where you are going. If something feels wrong, leave. If you are in danger, call 112.

Private media, boundary cards and intimacy cards are shared with you in trust. Never screenshot, save or pass them on without the person's consent. Keep contact in the app. Phone numbers, links and messenger handles are blocked in text for everyone's safety. Never share anything outside Afterwink that could identify another member.

Block removes someone from your Afterwink at once. Report sends what happened to a person for review. A check-in asks if you are OK when a plan should end. If you do not answer or tap I need help, your confirmed trusted contacts get an email and, if they have a phone number, an SMS. SOS sends them an alert at once, with your location if your device shares it when you send the alert. Afterwink does not contact the police or emergency responders. These messages can be delayed or fail. If you are in danger, call 112.

An automated filter stops phone numbers, links, messenger handles and money talk before they are saved or sent, and logs the attempt. It never takes action against anyone on its own. A person reads every report and every notice, checks the reported messages and logged filter hits, and decides whether to remove content, warn someone, suspend an account or ban it. Urgent reports come first: minors, sexual content involving children, selling or buying sex, and threats. Anyone affected by a decision gets an email with the reasons and can ask for another review.

In the app, open the profile and tap Report. The person you report does not see who reported them. Without an account, use the notice form on our website. If someone is in danger, call 112 first.

We close your account immediately for any sexual content or contact involving someone under 18, selling, buying or arranging sex for payment, signs of trafficking or exploitation, threats of violence, sharing intimate images without consent, or returning after a ban. We keep the evidence and share it with the police when the law requires.